Proverbs 3:31 tells you not to envy a violent person and not to copy the way they live. The verse is a warning against wanting what the wicked seem to gain and then slowly adopting their methods to get it. It is a father’s advice to a son, given in the form of wisdom sayings that run through the book of Proverbs.
Don’t envy the man of violence. Choose none of his ways.
Proverbs 3:31 (WEB)
What Proverbs 3:31 Means
The verse has two parts. The first, “Don’t envy the man of violence,” names a feeling. Envy is the ache of watching someone else prosper and wishing it were you. The “man of violence” is someone who gets ahead by force, cruelty, or exploitation. The warning is not to resent such a person into bitterness, because that resentment shapes your heart toward the same path.
The second part, “Choose none of his ways,” moves from feeling to action. The word “ways” points to a pattern of life, not a single act. The verse asks you to make a settled decision not to take up the habits of such a person, whether that means lying to get ahead, bullying a rival, or cutting corners that hurt others.
What the verse does not promise is that violent people will always be punished quickly or visibly. Proverbs is realistic about this. The point is that your own character is worth guarding more than any short-term advantage that dishonesty might bring.
The Context of Proverbs 3:31
The book of Proverbs is a collection of wisdom teaching, traditionally associated with Solomon, who is credited with much of its content. It is written in the form of instructions from a parent to a child, and it addresses young people who are learning how to live well before God. The sayings are practical, aimed at everyday choices about work, speech, money, and relationships.
The verses just before and after 3:31 deal with how we treat our neighbors. Verses 28 through 30 warn against withholding what is owed, plotting harm against someone who trusts you, and picking quarrels without reason. Verses 32 through 34 then contrast the crooked and the upright, showing that God is opposed to the wicked and gives grace to the humble. Read in that setting, verse 31 is part of a sustained call to justice and integrity in daily dealings, and it explains why envy of the violent is so dangerous: it pulls you toward the very conduct the surrounding verses condemn.
Key Phrases in Proverbs 3:31
Psalm 37:1
Don’t fret because of evildoers, neither be envious against those who work unrighteousness.
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This psalm addresses the same frustration of watching the wicked seem to prosper. It tells you not to fret over evildoers, which pairs naturally with Proverbs 3:31’s warning against envy and imitation.
Romans 12:21
Don’t be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
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Paul gives a practical counterpart to the proverb, urging you not to be overcome by evil but to overcome it with good. It shows the same refusal to adopt the methods of harm.
A Short Prayer From Proverbs 3:31
Lord, I confess that I sometimes look at people who seem to get ahead by cutting corners, and I feel the pull of envy. Keep my heart from fixing on what others have, and show me where that resentment has begun to shape my choices. Give me the courage to choose your ways even when the reward seems slow in coming. Help me trust that you see clearly what I cannot, and that my integrity is safe in your hands. Amen.
