Colossians 3:20 tells children to obey their parents in everything, and it gives the reason: this kind of obedience pleases the Lord. Paul is not describing a child who agrees with every rule, but a child who responds to parents with respect and cooperation as a form of worship. The words were written by the apostle Paul, traditionally regarded as the author of this letter, and they were addressed to the children in the Christian community at Colossae, a city in what is now western Turkey.
Children, obey your parents in all things, for this pleases the Lord.
Colossians 3:20 (WEB)
What Colossians 3:20 Means
The verse begins with a direct command: children are to obey. The word “obey” in this context points to listening and following through on what parents ask, the way a child who trusts a parent acts on that trust. Paul is speaking to young people who live in a household with a parent’s authority, and he assumes that such authority is a normal part of family life rather than something to be resisted.
The phrase “in all things” is where many readers pause. Paul does not mean that parents are always right or that a child must join in wrongdoing. The rest of the Bible is clear that God’s commands come first. What the verse does mean is that obedience in the home is meant to be wholehearted and consistent, not occasional or grudging. It does not promise that a child will never disagree, and it does not give parents unlimited power over conscience.
The last clause, “for this pleases the Lord,” gives the motive. Obedience at home is not just good manners or a way to keep the peace. It is an act that God delights in, because it reflects a heart that honors the order he has set up in families.
The Context of Colossians 3:20
Colossians is a letter written to a church Paul had not personally founded, and he writes to strengthen believers who were being pulled toward false teaching and empty philosophies. In the third chapter he turns from doctrine to practice, showing how the new life in Christ should look in ordinary relationships. The household codes that follow, addressing wives and husbands, children and fathers, and servants and masters, are part of that practical teaching.
Verse 20 sits between a word to wives and husbands in verses 18 and 19 and a word to fathers in verse 21. Paul links the two sides of the household on purpose. Children are told to obey, and fathers are told not to provoke them or discourage them. Read this way, the verse is not a one-sided demand but part of a mutual call to respect and care within the family. That context shapes how the command should be heard today: as a call to honor in a relationship where both parties are answerable to God.
Key Phrases in Colossians 3:20
Ephesians 6:1
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
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This verse, written in a similar household setting, repeats the call for children to obey their parents in the Lord. Reading it alongside Colossians 3:20 shows that the instruction was a consistent part of early Christian teaching about family life.
Exodus 20:12
“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land which the LORD your God gives you.
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The fifth commandment grounds the honor of parents in God’s own law. Colossians 3:20 builds on this older teaching, showing that respect for parents has always been part of the covenant life God asks of his people.
A Short Prayer From Colossians 3:20
Lord, you see the small choices I make in my home each day, the times I agree with the people who guide me and the times I resist them. Help me to respond with a willing heart, not because I always understand the reason, but because I want to please you. Where I have been stubborn, soften me. Where I have been careless, make me attentive. Let my obedience and respect reflect your love and bring honor to your name. Amen.
