Colossians 3:20 tells children to obey their parents in everything, and it gives a reason that goes beyond the house: this kind of obedience pleases the Lord. Paul wrote it to the believers in Colossae as part of a longer set of instructions about how Christian faith should shape ordinary family life.
Children, obey your parents in all things, for this pleases the Lord.
Colossians 3:20 (WEB)
What Colossians 3:20 Means
The word “children” here refers to young people living under their parents’ authority, not only to small kids. The command is simple: obey. Paul uses the broad phrase “in all things,” which means the expectation covers daily life at home, not just the rules that are easy to accept. The verse is not describing an unlimited demand, since the wider New Testament never asks anyone to do what is plainly wrong, but it does establish that obedience at home is a normal and good part of a believer’s life.
The second half of the verse gives the motive. Obedience “pleases the Lord.” Paul is saying that when a young person honors a parent, God sees it and is glad. This matters because it reframes ordinary chores, curfews and household rules as a place to serve God, not only a set of burdens to endure. The verse promises God’s pleasure, not a guaranteed easy time at home or a reward on a particular schedule.
The Context of Colossians 3:20
Colossians is a letter traditionally attributed to Paul, written to a church he had not personally founded, in the city of Colossae in what is now western Turkey. Paul writes to strengthen believers against teachings that distracted them from Christ, and he spends the earlier chapters showing that Jesus is supreme over all things. In the third chapter he turns to practical living: putting off old habits and putting on love, peace and thankfulness.
Just before the verse, Paul says that whatever believers do, in word or deed, should be done in the name of the Lord Jesus. Verse 20 is one application of that principle to family life. Because it sits among instructions to wives, husbands, fathers and servants, it shows that Christian obedience and love are meant to run through every relationship, not just the church meeting. Read in that setting, the verse is less about rules and more about a household shaped by the Lord.
Key Phrases in Colossians 3:20
Ephesians 6:1-3
1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with a promise: 3 “that it may be well with you, and you may live long on the earth.”
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Paul makes a closely related point in his letter to the Ephesians, adding that honoring parents is the first commandment with a promise. Reading the two passages together shows that obedience and honor are linked, and that the blessing Paul describes is part of God’s care for families who walk in faithfulness.
Exodus 20:12
“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land which the LORD your God gives you.
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The fifth commandment of the Law is the Old Testament root of this teaching. Seeing that Paul’s instruction echoes a command God gave to Israel helps readers understand that honoring parents has long been part of the life God desires for his people.
A Short Prayer From Colossians 3:20
Lord, you see the small choices I make at home, the moments when I want to push back or do things my own way. Help me to honor the parents you have placed over me, and to obey with a willing heart rather than a grudging one. When I am tempted to resent a rule or a request, remind me that you are pleased when I trust you through these ordinary places. Give me patience, humility and kindness in my words and my actions. May my life at home be an offering that brings you joy. Amen.
