This page offers prayers for our marriage, written for couples and spouses who want to bring their relationship before God. You can pray them in the morning, before a hard conversation, or at the end of a long day when the distance between you feels wider than it should. Read them aloud as written, or use them as a starting point and speak in your own words.
Prayers for Our Marriage
Lord, you were there when we first made our promises, and you have known every season since. We come to you today as two people who have chosen to walk together, though not always easily. Some days we speak kindly to each other, and some days our words come out sharp. Some days we feel close, and some days we feel like strangers sharing a kitchen. Help us remember that you are the one who first joined us, and that you do not grow tired of us when we fail.
Father, teach us to listen well. Slow our hearts when we are tempted to defend ourselves before we have heard the other person out. Give us patience with each other’s habits, moods and blind spots, and let us extend the same grace we so often need ourselves. Where there is hurt between us, bring honesty and repentance, and where there is fear, bring peace. Strengthen the trust we have placed in each other, and protect it from the small resentments that can grow when no one is looking.
We also ask for your presence in the ordinary things: the money we manage, the work that tires us, the children, the parents, the friends and the calendar that always seems full. Guard our time together, and help us make room for laughter, for tenderness and for rest. If the road ahead holds loss or hardship, keep us from turning on each other, and help us stand side by side under your care. Make our home a place where your love is felt. Amen.
A Shorter Version to Pray in a Moment
Lord, we are weary, and we need you right now. Calm the tension between us, soften our words and remind us whose we are. Help us hear each other clearly and love each other well, even in this moment. Give us wisdom for what comes next and the humility to ask forgiveness where we need it. We trust you with our marriage. Amen.
Scriptures to Pray Alongside
Genesis 2:24
Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh.
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Pray this verse by thanking God for the union he designed from the beginning. Ask him to help you honor the bond you share and to put your spouse first in the choices you make each day.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
4 Love is patient and is kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, 5 doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; 6 doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
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Read this passage slowly and name one quality of love it describes that you most need in your marriage right now. Ask God to grow that quality in you as you speak to your spouse.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
9 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. 10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when he falls, and doesn’t have another to lift him up.
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Pray this verse as a request for companionship and support. Thank God for the partner he has given you and ask him to help you be the one who lifts the other up when they stumble.
Ephesians 4:2-3
2 With all lowliness and humility, with patience, bearing with one another in love; 3 being eager to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
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Use this verse to pray for gentleness and patience between you. Ask the Spirit to keep your hearts united and to give you peace when disagreement arises.
Colossians 3:13
Bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do.
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Bring to God any offense that still sits heavy between you and your spouse. Ask him to give you the willingness to forgive as you have been forgiven, and to release what you have been holding.
How to Pray This Prayer
Many couples find it helpful to pray these words at a set time, such as before bed or over a cup of coffee before the day begins. Sit together at the kitchen table or on the couch, and hold hands if you are comfortable doing so. Reading one paragraph each can make the prayer feel shared rather than performed, and it gives both of you a voice in bringing your marriage to God.
If your spouse is not ready to pray with you, you can still pray this prayer alone on your commute, in a quiet corner of your home, or during a walk. Consider inviting a trusted friend, mentor or small group leader to pray for your marriage too. Write the prayer in a journal, and return to it when you notice changes, both hard and hopeful, so you can see how God is working over time.
A Blessing to Close
May the Lord bless this marriage and keep it steady through every season. May he fill the home with patience, kindness and joy, and may the two of you grow closer to each other as you grow closer to him.
